Sex With Emily

Today I teamed up with the brilliant developmental psychologist and host of the Raising Good Humans podcast, Dr. Aliza Pressman, for a rollercoaster ride through the wild world of parenting, sexuality, and relationships. From decoding the mysteries of "the talk" with kids to unraveling the enigma of why millennials and Gen-Zers might be having sex less often, we left no stone unturned. Join us as we dive headfirst into understanding and embracing children's gender identities and sexual orientations, all while figuring on how to be the best humans we can be.  Get ready, because this episode isn't just about parenting—it's about living your best life and loving fiercely along the way! Show Notes: 5 Principles of Parenting OUT NOW! More Dr. Aliza Pressman: Website | Instagram  Head to bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily for an automatic 10% off your purchase! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want

When you think of BDSM and kink, I’m sure leather and whips come to mind. But what if I told you that there’s much more to kink than that? Today, I’m here to sprinkle some spice and shed light on the art of BDSM and kink. First up, we'll define key terms and provide a comprehensive understanding of BDSM because let's face it, who really knows what "BDSM" stands for anyway? Then, we'll explore the psychology behind power dynamics and the core desires behind kinky practices. And last but certainly not least, we'll serve up some tantalizing tips for bringing a bit of kink into your bedroom – whether you're flying solo or have a partner in crime. So, buckle up (or should I say, buckle down?), because we're about to embark on a journey into the wild and wonderful world of kink! In this episode, you’ll learn: What BDSM and Kink are really about  The psychology behind dom/sub dynamics How to fearlessly bring kink into the bedroom Show Notes: What NOT to Say to Your Partner When Talking About Sex How to Squirt

In today's episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with #1 NYT Bestselling author Gabby Bernstein. As a spiritual leader and motivational speaker, Gabby shares how you can manifest the sex life you want but through a practical, less woo, lens and how to work through sexual trauma and change your core beliefs around sex. We also get into Internal Family Systems therapy and how young women today speak about sex differently than our generation. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How spirituality can enhance your sexuality How to boost your confidence (in and out of the bedroom) Tools for working through trauma See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: My appearance on the Dear Gabby podcast! More Gabby Bernstein: Website | Instagram Happy Days The Universe Has Your Back Self Help (coming 2/31/24) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s ge

We all want to grow and become better versions of ourselves. And no where is that more true than our sex lives. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from.  In this episode, you’ll learn: How to find solid friends with benefits Masturbation techniques The anatomy of the vulva! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Psychology of Your Kink How to Squirt (For Real) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Playground Lube Je Joue Mimi Je Joue Hera Magic Wand Insertion Toys Dual Stimulation Toys #Open SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own

It’s the season of love - self love! That’s right, this Valentine’s Day, I’ve got all of you singles covered. In today’s Best Of episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. In this episode, you’ll learn: How often you should masturbate in a relationship How to try masturbation when you never have The magic of mutual masturbation See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Psychology of Your Kink How to Squirt (For Real) Your February Solo Sex Challenge LELO DOT (up to 50% off until the end of February, code EMILY10 for an additional 10% off) We-Vibe Touch Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Rave We-Vibe Nova Pjur Water-Based Lube Aneros Prostate Massager SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasur

Ever wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to be a supportive partner to someone with sexual trauma How to get clearer on your sexual desires About the experiences of sex workers See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Give a Prostate Massage 15 Sex Toys That Make Amazing Valentine's Day Gifts VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Erika Lust porn Vice Series: Sex Before the Internet SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With

Orgasms are one of the most pleasure-filled parts of sex. But what’s actually happening in your body when you have one? Today, I’m breaking down the physiological process of different kinds of orgasms and explaining how to have them. I also reveal how to find your G-area and have a G-spot orgasm, what it means to have a dry orgasm, what squirting really is and how to do it. Plus, I get into your orgasm questions. In this episode, you’ll also learn: The anatomy of the clitoris, vulva, and penis so you can better stimulate them The many benefits of orgasms, for both your mental and physical health Tips for communicating with a partner if you no longer want jackhammer sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Give a Prostate Massage 15 Sex Toys That Make Amazing Valentine's Day Gifts LELO Tiani Duo (up to 50% off sitewide until the end of February) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and

I’m bringing you all into a LIVE conversation I had with renowned sex educator and researcher, Dr. Emily Nagoski, during a recent event in New York! After releasing her bestselling book on sex, Come As You Are, in 2015, Emily’s own sex life took a hit. Today, we discuss how she brought her sex life back from the dead, the Pleasure Thieves, and why it’s okay to stop sex once it’s already started. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to identify your sexual brakes and accelerators About the connection between wearing socks and having more orgasms How stress impacts your sex drive desire See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship) Magic Wand Micro Come Together, Dr. Emily Nagoski: Amazon | GoodReads | Bookshop More Dr. Emily Nagoski: Instagram | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex

Valentine’s Day is coming up, and I’m here to make sure it’s your best one yet. First, I get into some common Valentine’s Day myths and things you should never do on the sexy holiday. After that, I’ll share some creative ways you should celebrate to ensure that your Valentine’s Day is hot, intimate and of course, sexy. Plus, I share some of my listeners’ favorite Valentine’s Day moments for some hot inspiration. In this episode, you’ll learn:  How to incorporate blindfolds into sexual play Which toys can be used during penetration How to cultivate sexual desire & intimacy See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship) How to Do the Kivin Method LELO Tiani Duo (up to 50% off sitewide until the end of February 2024) Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Massage Candles Le Wand Crystal Glass Dildo Cozy Earth (code “SEXWITHEMILY” for 35% off) Magic Wand Masterclass (use link for 15% off the 1st year of an annual subs

On today’s Best Of episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily Hotline. We get into: how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set intentions for new relationships How cannabis can improve your orgasms and intimacy How to guide a partner during oral sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship) How to Do the Kivin Method The Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) EMDRIA SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Ho

When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with a partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration. In this episode, you’ll learn: What “spectatoring” during sex means, and how to overcome it Tips for sharing a sexual fantasy with a new partner How to navigate mismatched libidos in a long-term relationship See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean) Solaray (code 20STAGES for 20% off) We-Vibe Nova Shop Site Podcast: Hotline Calls: Why Can’t I Orgasm? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need

To feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. So today, I’m taking some of my favorite Hotline calls on trust and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, and now sex feels sorta gross? What if you tell a new partner you love them, and they don’t reciprocate? Or how about being “too picky” of a dater - is it really because they’re all duds, or are there some underlying trust issues there? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you radically reclaim your erotic freedom. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to move forward after infidelity, whether you were the cheater or the cheated on Tips for feeling comfortable with new partners What to do when it feels like the “spark” is gone See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Podcast: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerne

I’m answering my listeners’ most personal sex and relationship questions LIVE today. Can you only orgasm with straight legs? I’ve got positions and recommendations to help you get there. Nervous that chastity play is giving your partner delayed ejaculation? I ease your worries and help you collaborate with your partner for mutually fulfilling sex. Plus, we get into other kinky calls like erotic lactation and anal sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to teach your body new ways to orgasm Common causes of vaginal pain About chastity play and penis cage safety Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Initiate Sex LELO Hugo 2 Remote (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Ins

Sometimes, in our sex lives and relationships, it can be easy to wonder: Am I the Asshole? Don’t worry, because in today’s episode, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory in your sexual situations, like: AITA for wanting oral sex every time, not just on special occasions? AITA for rejecting my partner’s advances in the middle of the night? Or how about: AITA for getting upset when my partner turns me down? It’s a juicy one. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: Creative solutions for mismatched libidos What to do if you’re in a sexless relationship Tips for healthy sex conversations See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Initiate Sex Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twi

Today I am bringing back LIVE Hotline Calls! Not only that, holistic psychologist, author, and my newest friend, Dr. Scott Lyons, joins me back on the show to help me answer your questions. From concerns about sexual compatibility to avoiding jackhammer sex, you will hear the change in these callers’ voices as we help them in real-time. In this episode, you’ll learn: Effective ways to tell your partner you want to explore sexually How to have sex talks with a partner who gets uncomfortable How to feel confident going into a date See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Magic Wand Micro Dr. Scott Lyons: Instagram | Website The Embody Lab SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Burnt out from dating? Do you feel like you’ll never meet “the one?” In today’s episode, celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman dispels common dating myths and suggests new dating pillars. Plus, she tells us which dating rules to follow (and which to disregard), the #1 expectation for men on dates with women, and how to make your online dating profile stand out. In this episode, you’ll also learn: How much chemistry really matters on a date Who should make the first move How to track your dates to be more strategic See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024 F the Fairy Tale, Damona Hoffman: Amazon | Barnes & Noble More Damona Hoffman: Instagram | TikTok | X (Twitter) | Website Dates & Mates Podcast: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Website DamonaHoffman.com/DateTracker SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home L

I dive into the psychology of foreplay and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. I also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner doesn’t want to explore new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay. Plus, I answer your questions! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set the mood for hotter, more intimate sex Specific sex tips to seduce a partner The key differences between couples with ‘great’ vs. ‘bad’ sex lives See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have the Best NYE Kiss Ever 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024 Podcast: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Flavored Lubes Massage Candles Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Podcast: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Yes, No, Maybe List

I’m answering your top asked sex questions of 2023 and taking a trip through the hottest moments of the year. It’s the last episode of 2023, and there were definitely some standout episodes you all loved the most. So I’m playing some of the highlights, from my fascinating conversation with Esther Perel to my top Hand Play tips, before answering your top questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: What squirting really is and how to do it How often the average couple has sex How to have satisfying sex on SSRIs See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have the Best NYE Kiss Ever Podcast: Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? w/ Esther Perel More Esther Perel: Website | Instagram | Twitter SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your in

I’m always encouraging you all to set goals for yourself in your sex life and relationships, and there’s arguably no better time than in the New Year. Today, Producer Erica and I review predictions for 2024 sex and relationship trends, make some of our own predictions, and suggest some New Year’s resolutions to make 2024 your sexiest year yet. In this episode you’ll learn: About the living apart, together movement What pleasure mapping is, and how to do it What percentage of successful couples schedule sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Get to Know Your Body with “Vulva Mapping” LELO Dot SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your i

Is it okay to get turned on thinking about my partner with someone else? How can we maintain intimacy amid financial stress? Is it possible to be a feminist and also want to be submissive in the bedroom? Should I be honest with my partner that I’ve never had penetrative sex before? You all ask the best questions, and I’m here to answer them in today’s juicy Hotline Call episode. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to create new fantasies, when you always have the same one How to watch porn creatively with a partner How to prioritize pleasure, even during your busiest weeks See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide Last-Minute Amazon Prime Panic Gifts For Lovers & Friends Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Opening Up: Amazon | Barnes & Noble The Ethical Slut: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Open Deeply: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Insight Timer Breathe App Where Should We Begi