Healing Starts With The Heart

Episode Title: Ways to Handle Cumulative Grief Gently Episode Description: In today’s episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker unpacks the concept of cumulative grief and why unresolved losses from the past can intensify the pain of new ones. Sharon shares insights drawn from her own journey and years of experience with grieving clients to shed light on the overwhelming effects of grief overload. From childhood losses to recent heartbreaks, she explains how cumulative grief layers upon itself, often leaving us feeling trapped in a cycle of sorrow. This episode guides listeners on embracing their grief fully, with actionable steps for managing the waves of unresolved pain and building resilience along the way. Key Points Discussed: The Nature of Cumulative Grief Grief doesn’t operate on a timeline; it builds up over time. Sharon explains how early grief experiences, even from childhood, can resurface with each new loss, creating an overwhelming accumulation of unresolved pain.

Episode Title: 5 Things to Avoid While Grieving Episode Description: In today’s episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker dives into five common pitfalls to steer clear of on your personal path through grief. Drawing from her own experiences and over a decade of work with grieving individuals, Sharon shares practical insights on what to avoid when navigating loss. From self-judgment to resisting emotions, she explains how letting yourself fully experience grief can lead to deeper healing and resilience. Each tip is designed to help you honor your grief journey with courage and compassion, while building a supportive foundation along the way. Key Points Discussed: Don’t Talk Yourself Out of Grieving Embrace your emotions, no matter how difficult they may feel. Sharon explains the importance of acknowledging every type of grief, whether it’s a silent loss or a life-altering heartbreak. Avoid Self-Bullying Grief isn’t a measure of strength or control. Sharon shares why it’s ess

Episode Title: Are You Truly Respecting Grief? Episode Description: In today's episode, we dive into the significance of respecting the grief of others. Grief is as unique as the individual experiencing it. Sharon Brubaker discusses how grief can vary based on personality, relationships, and individual circumstances. Understanding this can help us honor others’ grief without trying to fix or rush the process. Join us as we explore how respect, acknowledgment, and allowing space for grief can transform the healing journey for both the griever and their supporters. Key Points Discussed: Grief and Personality: Grief reflects your personality—whether open, reserved, or emotional, you will grieve in the way you show up in life. Just because someone is grieving doesn't mean their personality changes. Recognizing this can help others understand how to support them. Grief and Relationships: Your relationship with the deceased affects how you grieve. Whether they were a best friend, parent, or admired public figure

Grief is like Glitter Episode Title: Grief is like Glitter: Embracing the Persistent Nature of Grief Episode Description: In today's episode, we explore the concept that grief is like glitter. No matter how much you try to clean it up, it always shows up when you least expect it. This analogy highlights the persistent and sometimes unexpected nature of grief. Join us as we discuss how to understand and embrace these moments as part of your healing journey. Key Points Discussed: Grief as Glitter: Grief can be both beautiful and inconvenient, resurfacing at unexpected times. It serves as a reminder of the love and deep connections we have with those we’ve lost. Embracing Grief: Allow yourself to feel the emotions and acknowledge the significance of your loss. These moments are part of your healing journey and reflect the deep connections you’ve had. Journal Questions: In what ways does grief continue to show up in your life, even when you think you’ve moved past it? How do these unexpected m

Podcast Description: Hello everyone, today we’re talking about those moments when grief feels unbearable. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone during these times. Grief can feel overwhelming, but there are ways to manage and cope with these intense emotions. When grief feels unbearable, reaching out for support is crucial. Whether it’s talking to a friend, family member, or grief counselor, sharing your feelings can provide relief. Additionally, practicing self-care can help you navigate through these difficult times. Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health is essential. Sometimes, doing simple things like taking a walk, journaling, or practicing mindfulness can make a big difference. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and to take the time you need to heal. Here are five journal questions to help you navigate those moments when grief feels unbearable: What specific situations or triggers make your grief feel unbearable? How do you typically react or cope when the intensity

Podcast Description: Welcome back! Today we’re discussing whether grief and loss are the same. While loss is the event – the end of something or someone dear – grief is our reaction to that loss. Understanding this distinction can help us navigate our emotions better. Loss can take many forms, including the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or a significant life change. Grief is the emotional response to these losses, encompassing a range of feelings such as sadness, anger, and confusion. Here are five journal questions to help you explore the distinction between grief and loss:   How do you differentiate between the concepts of grief and loss in your experience? What specific losses have you experienced, and how have you grieved each one? How does understanding this distinction help you navigate your emotions? What coping mechanisms have you found helpful in dealing with loss and grief? How can you support others in recognizing and processing their own grief and loss? Use these questions t

Podcast Description: Hello listeners, in today’s episode, we’re exploring what grief means. Grief is a deeply personal experience, and its meaning can vary widely from person to person. For some, grief is a process of healing and remembrance. For others, it’s a way to honor the life of a loved one and the impact they had. Grief can encompass a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and even relief. Understanding what grief means to you can help you navigate your emotions and find a path towards healing. Here are five journal questions to help you delve into the meaning of grief in your life: 1.    What does grief mean to you personally? 2.    How has your understanding of grief evolved over time? 3.    In what ways has grief shaped your identity and your view of the world? 4.    How do you honor your grief and the memories of your loved one? 5.    What role does grief play in your ongoing journey of healing and self-discovery? Reflecting on these questions can help you uncover the deeper si

Episode Description: Welcome back to another episode. Today, we’re discussing the lessons grief has taught us. Grief can be a profound teacher, revealing truths about ourselves, our relationships, and our view of the world. Through the process of grieving, many people discover strengths they never knew they had. They learn the importance of vulnerability, the value of cherishing every moment, and the necessity of self-compassion. Grief can also teach us about the resilience of the human spirit and the capacity for growth even in the face of profound loss. Here are five journal questions to help you reflect on the lessons you’ve learned from grief: What are the most significant lessons grief has taught you about life and love? How have your priorities or perspectives changed since experiencing grief? What strengths or qualities have you discovered in yourself through your grieving process? How has grief influenced your relationships with others? What advice would you give to someone who is just beginning

Episode Title: Grief Songs: The Healing Power of Music Episode Description: In today’s episode, we’re talking about the power of grief songs. Music has a unique way of touching our hearts and expressing emotions we might struggle to put into words. Certain songs can bring us comfort and help us process our grief. Join us as we explore how music can be a therapeutic outlet during difficult times. Key Points Discussed: Music as Healing: Music can provide solace and serve as a way to remember and honor our loved ones. Whether it’s a song that reminds you of your loved one or a new melody that resonates with your current feelings, music can help in your healing journey. Journal Questions: What songs or types of music do you find most comforting during times of grief? How does listening to these songs make you feel? Are there any specific lyrics that resonate deeply with your grief experience? How can you use music to honor your loved one’s memory? What new songs or genres would you like to explor

Episode Title: Rebuilding Life Beyond Loss with Joi Renique Episode Description: In today’s episode, we dive deep into the concept of "grief courage" — the remarkable inner strength it takes to face the pain of loss. Grieving is not about being fearless but about embracing the full weight of your emotions and allowing yourself to heal through them. Join us as we explore what it means to be courageous in grief and how this strength can lead to profound healing. Key Points Discussed: Understanding Grief Courage: True courage lies not in hiding pain, but in facing it head-on. Grief courage allows us to feel deeply while embracing the journey toward healing. The Misconception of Strength: Society often tells us to put on a brave face, but real strength comes from allowing ourselves to fully experience grief. Healing starts when we stop avoiding our emotions and start tending to them. Healing Through Connection: Grief courage also involves reaching out, leaning on others, and knowing it’s okay to ask for h

Episode Title: Grief Triggers: Understanding and Coping with Unexpected Moments Episode Description: In today's episode, we dive into the topic of grief triggers—those unexpected moments when a memory, a smell, a song, or even a place brings back the pain of loss. Grief triggers are a natural part of the grieving process and can be challenging to navigate. Join us as we explore how to understand and cope with these triggers, allowing ourselves to feel the emotions they bring up. Key Points Discussed: What Are Grief Triggers? Grief triggers are personal and can vary widely. They may include the scent of a loved one’s perfume or a significant song. These triggers remind us of the deep connections and love we continue to feel for those we’ve lost. Acknowledging Your Emotions: It’s important to acknowledge grief triggers and allow yourself to feel the emotions they bring up. Avoiding or suppressing these feelings can often intensify them. Coping Strategies: Create a plan for how to handle grief t

Grief is Love with Nowhere to Go Episode Title: Grief is Love with Nowhere to Go: Embracing the Transformation Episode Description: In today’s episode, we explore the concept that grief is love with nowhere to go. When we lose someone, the love we have for them doesn’t disappear; it transforms into grief. This transformation is a testament to the deep connections and bonds we’ve had with our loved ones. Understanding that grief is a form of love can help us reframe our experience, bringing a sense of peace and acceptance. Key Points Discussed: Grief as Love: Grief is a powerful expression of the love we continue to have for our lost loved ones. Embracing this perspective can bring peace and help us honor our loved ones in meaningful ways. Journal Questions: How has your love for your lost loved one transformed into grief? What are some ways you can express this love, even though your loved one is no longer physically present? How does recognizing grief as a form of love change your perspective

Your Grief Matters   Episode Title: Your Grief Matters   Episode Description: In today’s episode, we delve into the importance of finding a safe space to share your grief. Grief Study Hall, a free, supportive community for women, provides just that. We’ll explore why it’s crucial to express your grief openly and how doing so can be the first step on your healing journey. Through Sharon Brubaker’s personal story of loss, discover why having your grief acknowledged is essential, and how Study Hall can be the place where your healing truly begins.   Key Points Discussed:   The Need for a Safe Space: Grievers often feel their grief isn’t acknowledged or valued, making it hard to express their true feelings. Finding a community where you can openly share your grief, like Grief Study Hall, is vital for starting the healing process.   The Power of Sharing Your Story: Sharing your story helps you process the pain and begin to heal. When someone listens to your grief, it validates your experience and emotions. Grie

Episode Description: In this episode, we explore the profound impact grief can have on the body. Grief is not just an emotional experience but also a physical one. We discuss the different types of grief—intellectual and emotional—and how they affect us. Learn about the common physical symptoms of grief, the importance of self-care, and the role of grief support groups in the healing process. Episode Highlights: The two types of grief: intellectual and emotional. How grief can affect the body and cause physical symptoms. The importance of self-care during grief. How grief impacts sleep and appetite. The role of grief support groups in the healing process. Key Takeaways: Two Types of Grief: Intellectual grief is processed in the brain, while emotional grief is felt in the heart. Both types can affect the body. Physical Symptoms: Grief can cause fatigue, sleep disturbances, appetite changes, weakened immune system, and muscle tension. Importance of Self-Care: Taking care of yourself is crucial dur

Episode Description: In this episode, we delve into the delicate balance of protecting a loved one's reputation while telling the truth about their life. Why do we feel the need to shield their flaws? How does this affect our own healing? Join me as we discuss the importance of honesty in grief, the power of telling the truth, and how to maintain respect for the deceased while acknowledging their imperfections. Episode Highlights: Why do you feel the need to protect their reputation? The importance of telling the truth about your loved one. How honesty leads to true healing. Balancing respect for the deceased with acknowledging their flaws. Sharing personal stories and experiences with honesty and compassion. Key Takeaways: Honesty is Healing: True healing comes from being honest about your loved one's life, including their flaws. Balanced Legacy: You can honor your loved one's memory while also acknowledging their imperfections. Respectful Sharing: It's important to share the truth in a respect

Episode Description: In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked importance ofmaking ourselves and our healing a priority. We delve into the reasons why many of uscarry unhealed wounds from our past and how this unresolved pain can impact ourpresent lives and relationships. Sharon Brubaker, owner of The Grief School, discussesthe stigmas surrounding grief work, the necessity of emotional well-being, and sharesinspiring stories of transformation through healing. Tune in to discover how embracinggrief work can lead toa happier, more fulfilled life. Key Points: Unhealed Wounds:Understanding the impact of carrying unhealed wounds fromchildhood and past experiences. Investment in Healing:The discrepancy between what people are willing toinvest in finding love versushealing from grief. Repressed Pain:The consequences of ignoring or suppressing emotional pain. Societal Stigmas:Addressing the societal discomfort and stigmas associated withgrief and healing work. Self-Care:The importance of emotional well-being

Episode Summary: In this episode of The Grief School Podcast, Sharon Brubaker explores the transformative concept of balancing positive and negative emotions. She challenges listeners to embrace the idea that our human experience is meant to be a balance of both and explains how understanding this balance can increase our power and ability to effect change in the world. Sharon provides insightful reflections and practical steps to help listeners create emotional balance on purpose. Key Takeaways:   Understanding the balance of emotion can increase your power in the world and your ability to change it tenfold. Embracing both positive and negative emotions as part of the human experience can lead to a more balanced and less negatively charged life. By not resisting negative emotions and instead creating, allowing, and understanding them, we can reduce their impact and foster a healthier emotional state.   Concepts Discussed: Thoughts Create Feelings: We generate our emotions through the thoughts we ente

Host: Sharon Brubaker, Grief Specialist Description: Welcome to Healing Starts with the Heart, where grief meets resilience. In this deeply personal episode, host Sharon Brubaker shares her journey through a serious health diagnosis and its emotional impact. Sharon dives into the unexpected grief that accompanies serious illnesses or injuries, offering insights, support, and a heartfelt personal story to guide listeners through their own experiences. Episode Highlights: Introduction Sharon introduces the topic and its personal significance. The transformative journey of coping with a serious illness or injury. Personal Story Sharon recounts her experience from April 7th, 2024. The initial symptoms, misdiagnoses, and eventual discovery of a 95% blockage in the widowmaker of her heart. The emotional rollercoaster: fear, numbness, frustration, and realization. The Unique Experience of Women The differences in heart attack symptoms between men and women. Sharon's persistence in seeking the correct diagnos

Welcome to "Healing Starts with the Heart," a podcast where we explore the journey of healing from grief. I'm your host, Sharon, and today we're going to talk about a feeling that many of us who have experienced loss can relate to: not wanting to return to 'normal.' Let's start with a simple truth. When you lose someone or something important, your life changes. It's like you're on a journey where, at first, your loss becomes a part of you. It's not about overcoming it quickly; it's about integrating it into your life. Now, I know the idea of getting 'better' or the thought of your grief easing can feel almost... offensive, especially in the early stages. Why is that? Well, for many of us, our grief is the strongest connection we have to what we've lost. It can feel like if we start to feel better, maybe we're saying that the person we lost, or the life we had before, wasn't that important. But here's a question: If you start to move forward, does it really mean your past life wasn't special? Absolutely not.

Hello, dear listeners, and welcome to another episode of "Healing Starts with the Heart." I'm Sharon, your guide on this journey of understanding and healing from grief. Today's topic is a unique one: feeling like you're living in an 'Alternative Universe' after a loss. You're still here on Earth, going about your daily life. You say hi to your neighbors, visit the grocery store, talk to people. But something feels different, doesn't it? It's like you're there, but not really seen. There's this vast divide between you and the rest of the world. This feeling is more common in grief than you might think. It's like you're in a world parallel to the one everyone else is living in. You're physically present, but emotionally and mentally, there's a distance. The world keeps moving, but you might feel stuck or invisible. The divide you're feeling – it's clear and profound, especially now. And it's during times like these that connecting with others who are grieving becomes so important. Why, you ask? Because they ca