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We all have a basic human desire to feel loved and connected to others. Our needs and expectations can often get projected onto our partner, and we may become disappointed when these needs aren't met. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate better with your partner and get back that loving feeling!   In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The big mistake individuals make when trying to get more love and connection with their partner. Becoming aware of your expectations from your partner. Establishing a clear need and proactively asking for it from your partner. Creating habits to love our partners better. And much more! Dr. Samantha Smithstein is a clinical psychologist in San Francisco who specializes in relationships and intimacy and living your best life. She has been in practice for over 20 years. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/194 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5

Money — it's the number one cause of marital stress. It can lead to terrible arguments, resentment and even divorce. Don't let your relationship suffer from the common affliction of money arguments. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to talk with your partner about money in a productive way that won't hurt your relationship.    In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:   Why money is such a personal issue for people and can lead to feelings of being attacked or controlled by our partner. Learn how you and your partner personally relate to money to better talk about it with each other and come up with money compromises. How to prevent financial infidelity. The importance of completing a 'needs analysis' each month and how it can save your relationship. And much more! Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple, have dedicated their lives to helping others strengthen their relationships with the 5 Money Personalities. With 43 years of combined financial planning experience

Happiness is all the rage these days. Top 10 lists for things to do to live a happier life are abundant in our social media feeds and online articles. So why do we feel so unhappy sometimes? Relationships and how you're navigating them hold a huge key to living a happier life. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to work toward a happier relationship and happier life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How our addiction to screen time is fueling loneliness, disconnection and unhappiness in our lives. How reminders, repetition and ritual can help fuel the changes we want in our lives. The importance of embracing painful emotions. Becoming aware of the fact that you're comparing your life to that of others. And much more! Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD, taught the largest course at Harvard, Positive Psychology, and the third-largest, The Psychology of Leadership, attracting 1,400 students per semester—approximately 20 percent of all Harvard undergraduates. For the last fiftee

Breakups suck. Whether you've been dumped or you broke off the relationship, feelings of shame, sadness, desperation and loss can arise. Along comes the 'rebound' relationship and we're back on the crazy love train again. Listen to today's episode as we debunk some of the myths surrounding rebound relationships and how to best navigate them. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the desire to be attached affects our desire for a new rebound relationship Is it wrong to get into a rebound relationship right after a breakup? Learn the healthy response to a break up and establishing a new relationship Why the cliche, 'time heals all wounds', is a bit mistaken Gaining new perspectives and experiences through a new relationship And much more! Dr. Mary Lamia is a clinical psychologist and professor in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is the author of five books, and blogs for Psychology Today and Therapy Today websites. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodca

Are you religious and your partner is not? Maybe the other way around? The landscape is changing and you don't have to share your partner's religion or be religious at all. Listen to today's episode and learn how to navigate religion in your relationship. It will be valuable whether you're an atheist or a devout follower! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The debate around interfaith marriages How religion can become irrelevant in your relationship  The control issues surrounding religion in your relationship Tolerating the differences between you and your partner Raising kids with religious compromises between you and your partner And much more! Steven Ing is reframing an important conversation in society one about the intelligent management of human sexuality. He is a sought-after trainer, speaker and therapist, bringing nearly three decades of experience to his audiences and clients. His book, We’re All Like This” (2015, Giant Publishing), is used as a text in Hu

It's all too easy to 'lose yourself' in a relationship. Maybe you give up your hobbies and friendships just to please your partner or you just want to stay in their good graces. This is a long term strategy that is destined to fail. Listen to today's show to learn how to prioritize your personal happiness within a relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Spending time with yourself and developing your own hobbies/interests The relationship power struggle that plays out when trying or failing to meet each others needs Communicating around your weekly schedules Getting to know yourself better And much more! Dr. Paulette Sherman is a psychologist who specializes in romantic relationships and coaches singles and couples to attract and maintain fulfilling relationships. She is the author of, ‘Dating from the Inside Out’ and the upcoming book, ‘Facebook Dating: from 1st Date to Soulmate.’ She teaches an online class called, ‘7 Steps to Dating Success’ on Udemy and h

A bad breakup can feel like your world is ending. Insecurity, fear and sadness are just a few of the many emotions we might feel. Listen to today's show to learn how to learn, recover, move on and find new love after a breakup. Learn the importance of stabilizing your life and seeking support after a breakup Why breakups can bring so much insecurity and sadness and how to deal with these emotions Reflecting on your past relationship and moving forward How to not get 'stuck' on an ex Regaining your confidence and finding new love And much more! About Our Guest: Dalila Jusic-LaBerge is a licensed marriage and family therapist offering online courses, coaching and counseling to help people confidently embrace love from the right partner.  Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/188 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topi

We've all been there... Your blood begins to boil. Your temperature rises. Your body becomes tense as you prepare for a 'fight' with your partner.   These moments could be small disagreements or big picture arguments. The 'in it' moment where we have the choice to go down the path of healing or destruction can be pivotal for the health of your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate these moments in a better way.    In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why 'my way or the highway' is a terrible approach to relationship disagreements Regulating our emotions when we're upset or in a disagreement with our partner The desire to be heard and understood for relationship growth Stopping emotional reactivity in it's tracks Understanding that your partner has unique needs and feelings And much more! For more than 22 years, Maureen Hosier, PhD has specialized in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and w

The choice to spend your life with another individual is a big one. It's important to ask yourself certain questions to understand why you're in a relationship with a particular individual. Whether you're single, dating or married, today's show will help guide you toward a better relationship future. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why the alignment of values is critical to a successful relationship. How to make a clear partner choice without 'love chemicals' getting in the way. Understanding how your partner manages conflict as a key determinant of a successful relationship. The myth of the 'soulmate'. How to engage in future oriented thinking for your relationship. And much more! Dr. Cassandra Bolar has a passion to see families flourish and thrive. For over 13 years, she has been engaged in community-based programming and research efforts that focus on improving outcomes for children and their families. Clinically, she is passionate about serving marital couple

Apologies are more than just a tool to help you and your partner move on from a difficult situation. They’re a way to mend an emotional hurt and keep a relationship strong. But how you apologize is extremely important. Simply saying, "I'm sorry", can feel insincere and often make the relationship conflict worse. Listen to today's show to learn how to apologize like you mean it. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:   Learn why apologizing is not a one-way street. Understand that there will be conflict in your relationship and that we must learn to repair rather than prevent conflict. How the receiver of an apology can help the relationship move forward after a transgression. Mindfully apologizing instead of simply saying, "I'm sorry", without really meaning it. And much more! Psychologist, author, speaker and Buddhist sex therapist, Dr. Cheryl Fraser, has a rare combination of academic credibility, humor, straight-talk, and life-changing advice. Dr. Cheryl has helped

You betrayed me! Those are three words no one wants to say or hear. Whether it's with a close friend, romantic partner or family member, betrayal can feel terrible. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with betrayal in relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why betrayal can feel like a punch in the gut and how to ease the hurt. Learn the things to examine to determine if a relationship can be healed after a betrayal. The stages of recovery after a betrayal. How to heal and create a new world view after betrayal. How to navigate the process if you are someone who has betrayed another person. And much more! Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT Institute, is a Transformational Psychologist and a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body. Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and

Being a human is complicated. Mind and body often blend to create all kinds of difficulties. Combine this with being in a relationship with another human and things can get really complicated! One element that makes this task difficult is our hormones. Listen to today's episode to learn how to not be a victim of raging hormones when it comes to our libido and overall relationship health. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Your libido and how stress and other environmental factors can affect it. Low testosterone and why it's not always the whole picture for sex drive issues. How to create more intimacy in your relationship. Why simply 'blaming it on your hormones' doesn't usually tell the whole story. How to focus on yourself to increase your libido. And much more! Justine Cécile is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner supporting professional women and men, who are struggling with raging hormones, even when they are on hormone therapy. While working on herse

Losing a partner can be one of the most devastating life events. Healing from such a loss takes time, however, it is completely normal to want to find love again after losing a spouse. Whether you've dealt with the death of a partner or you're currently in a relationship, this episode will help you deal with a death in your relationship.  In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:- How to honor the memory of a deceased partner when dating someone new Dealing with the shock of an untimely death. How to have a conversation with your children about you dating again The grieving process and how to grow through it And much more! Sarah Tolmie assists individuals, couples and families to celebrate, create, navigate, learn, heal and grow through all life and love milestones, transitions, changes, challenges and losses. Her practice focuses on love, marriage & family relationships; success, lifestyle & wellness; and grief & loss, including coping with illness, dying and death. Full s

It's one of the cliche relationship situations that everyone seems to have a strong opinion on. Can we be friends with our ex's or members of the opposite sex? Of course we can! However, the answer is not always simple. Sometimes the answer is NO WAY! Listen to today's episode to navigate the minefield of friendship with ex-lovers and the opposite sex when you're currently in a relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The important questions to ask yourself when there is a desire to be friends with an ex or member of the opposite sex. How the 'drug' of your former partner can send misleading signals and pull you back toward them. Why it's OK to be attracted to other people outside of your relationship. The difference between jealousy and jealous behavior. The monogamish movement and how to think about it. John Kim LMFT, The Angry Therapist, pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth

You can choose your friends but not your family....so the saying goes. For some of us, family is fun and a joy to be around. For others, not so much. In either case, relationship dynamics with our parents and extended families can create pressure and stress on our marriage or relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with family challenges and not let them negatively affect your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to care for an aging parent in a productive way that does not negatively impact your relationship Compromising with both your partner and your parents in regards to each person's needs Communicating with other family members in productive and meaningful ways. For example, balancing the work between siblings who care for an aging parent Feeding your relationship when dealing with an aging or needy parent And much more! Linda Fodrini-Johnson, MA, MFT, CMC, has been a Professional Geriatric Care Manager and a Licensed Marriage F

It's easy to have high sexual energy very early in a relationship. However, six months to one year into a relationship, the hormones can start to die down — leaving you with a new, often less sexy relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to keep intimacy alive in your relationship no matter how long you've been together. How to keep the erotic energy strong in a long term relationship Dealing with the vulnerability of discussing intimacy Softening the 'NO' to sexual advances from your partner How to ask your partner what turns them on The importance to have an intention for eroticism in the relationship And much more! Brian is a licensed clinical social worker, he, along with his wife Marcia, has been working with couples for over 30 years. He teaches and trains therapists internationally in Canada, Mexico, Holland, Brazil, and Australia. Brian has authored two books on committed relationships Going All The Way and Exceptional Relationships - Transformation through Embodied Couple Work. Ful

Sexual fantasy can play a large role in a relationship and individual sexuality. However, there's often a fair amount of shame around sexuality and sexual fantasies. Listen to today's show to learn how to explore your own fantasies and share them with your partner. You just might learn a few fun new things about each other and perhaps your fantasy will turn to reality! Today's show topics include: How to work on feeling less shameful about your sexual fantasies Communication tools to share your fantasies with your partner The deeper meaning of your sexual fantasies (Threesomes might be a need to feel desired, ect..) Learn if it's ever a bad thing to fantasize too much Examining your fantasies and peak sexual experiences And much more! Xanet Pailet is an intimacy educator, coach and author of Living An Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself And Awaken Your Pleasure. She works with individuals and couples to empower them around their sexuality and strengthen relationship and intimacy skills. Xanet is a certifie

Each individual has a role in a relationship. Maybe you take out the trash and your partner handles the dishes, or you're the primary caretaker of the kids while your partner is the primary income earner. Whatever your relationship roles, sometimes they get out of balance and create points of stress and conflict. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate these issues and rebalance your relationship. How to address the issue of an imbalance through productive communication. Why learning about yourself and your own insecurities is often a solution to relationship issues. The importance of sitting down to discuss your needs and expectations. How to address issues at the source and when you initially feel them arise. And much more! Lynn Reilly is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Master Energy Therapist and the author of the self development book, 30 Days to Me. Her expertise in understanding human behavior drives her passion to educate people on how to understand and support themselves to live a

ADHD is a mental health condition that can negatively impact your relationship and often goes undiagnosed in adults. Distractability, poor listening and disorganization are just a few signs of adult ADHD. It's important to understand the mental condition and its affects on your relationship. Whether or not you or your partner has ADHD, you'll find many useful relationship tips in this episode. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to know if you or your partner has ADHD Treatments for ADHD The pitfalls of the parent-child dynamic in a relationship Finding common ground to solve the issues in your relationship Learning who your partner is and respecting that person And much more! Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant who specializes in working with couples impacted by adult ADHD. She is the author of two award-winning books, The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/176 Si

  Ahhhhh! STRESS. If you've never been stressed out you are either, not human, or you've achieved an extreme level of enlightenment and your brain should be studied in a lab. Stress is a natural survival response from millions of years of evolution. It serves us well in some situations, and in others it can be quite destructive. In particular, stress can put a huge damper on the relationships in your life. Use the tips in this episode to deal with stress in a way that does not negatively affect your relationships.   In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to slow things down so you can think rationally and not say or do things you'll later regret.  Staying mindful to avoid reactivity.  Broadening your view to think of the bigger picture as a tool for dealing with your stress.  Realizing that stress is a part of life and finding the right mindset to move forward with it.  And much more! Melanie Greenberg Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist specializing in stress and relatio