The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to have my pal and award-winning podcast host, John R. Miles, on the show to talk about his new book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life.  I'm excited because intentional living is how I live my life, and I teach all of my clients and students to do it, too. There is nothing quite like harnessing the mind-blowing power of our own intention.  But what does that look like in practice? John is here to break it down with examples from his own life and case studies from the book. I hope you enjoy this conversation with John as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/583

Does Valentine’s Day feel meaningless without someone to spend it with? Does it cause more disappointment than happiness? Or are you simply tired of all the hype around it? You are not alone, my friend. I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day myself.  What if we did something different? What if we focused on the power of self-love this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day? If this sounds better than the usual alternative, I got you covered with three steps you can take to celebrate YOU, whether you are single or partnered. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/582 Take my quiz to learn more about your boundary style: boundaryquiz.com Go here for more information and to enroll in Boundary Bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp

Welcome to a super special edition of The Terri Cole Show where I am doing something I've never done before: interviewing my husband, Victor Juhasz, along with bestselling author, Steven Pressfield.  Vic and Steven collaborated on Steven's new book, The Daily Pressfield, which is an excellent companion for anyone giving a creative endeavor their all. (Currently me, writing my second book!) Vic provided the illustrations and the book is filled with Steven's wisdom from the many years he's spent in the writing trenches.  In this conversation, we talk about how the book and illustrations came together, our experiences with resistance and creativity, imposter syndrome, fear, self-sabotage, inspiration, and so much more.  You can get a signed copy here: https://sassmediallc.com/products/the-daily-pressfield-hardcover-signed-copy Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/581

Welcome to part two of a two-part series I am doing on high-functioning codependency.  In part one, I talked about the high price we pay for over-giving, over-doing, and over-functioning. I also share my personal and professional experiences with it. If you missed it, read it here. In this part, I break down the 6 archetypes of high-functioning codependency and give you tools and strategies you can use to free yourself from it.  When you raise your awareness of these disordered behaviors, you can change them. You do not have to live in the endless exhaustion of high-functioning codependency. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/580

I am so excited for frequent-flyer guest, Ross Rosenberg, to be back on the show. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute.  We cover so much: Ross's definition of codependency, why codependents and narcissists are attracted to one another, how to detach from a narc (Ross's technique is called "observe, don't absorb"), why narcissists try to induce conversations, love bombing, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/579

Are you endlessly giving and doing for all the people all the time? Do people come to you when they need something because they know you’ll get it done, no matter what? If you are nodding your head, you might just be a high-functioning codependent, and this episode is for you. I am covering what high-functioning codependency is, the considerable cost of being a high-functioning codependent (on you, your relationships, and others), and sharing my own experiences with these disordered relational behaviors– both personally and professionally. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/578

I am so excited to have my pal, bestselling author and personal finance expert, Farnoosh Torabi, on the show.  We are talking about her new book, A Healthy State of Panic: Follow Your Fears to Build Wealth, Crush Your Career, and Win At Life, which Newsweek chose as a "Best Book of 2023." I don't know about you, but the title definitely resonates with me! In this conversation, Farnoosh shares how she shifted from being limited by fear to constructively responding to fear. She also offers a few tips you can use if you struggle with fear around money and reveals what we can learn from fear if we allow it a chance. Read the show notes at terricole.com/577

Are there couples in your life who make you think, what do they know that I don’t know? They seem so happy! How do they do it? Or do you see couples in movies or TV and wonder, does the kind of love they have exist, and if it does, where can I find it? If you think other people have love all figured out and you aren’t sure how to figure it out yourself, this episode is for you.  I am sharing my personal 20 tips for curating, creating, and attracting epic love in your life whether you are single OR partnered! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/576

I am so excited to have award-winning TV host and cook, Daphne Oz, on the show. Daphne and I have known each other for over a decade and it has been so fun to watch her career flourish. I love watching her cooking and makeup tutorials on Instagram, too.  If you love Daphne's recipes, I think you'll enjoy this girlfriend jam because we go much deeper into Daphne's food philosophy, the childhood experiences that shaped who she is today, how she navigated the trial-by-fire of a college book tour and being a co-host on The Chew in her 20s, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/575

Do you think true love is never having to say you are sorry? Do you think boundaries are unnecessary with real love? How do you feel about unconditional love? Do you believe it exists? Or that it is something to aspire to? Many of us were indoctrinated to believe in these myths about love, but from my 25 years as a psychotherapist and my own experience, I believe real, epic, healthy, and amazing love is boundaried and conditional. Read on to discover why. I also cover questions you can ask to unearth your downloaded blueprint around unconditional love and I’m sharing some concrete steps you can take toward better, healthier love in your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/575

I am so excited to welcome my pal and brilliant clinician, Dr. Mariel Buqué, to the show! Her new book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma is a salve the world needs right now (in my opinion), and I am so grateful for the wisdom she shared in this conversation.  We talked about how to start to heal intergenerational trauma, what it looks like, what causes it, and so much more.  If you have, or suspect you have been affected by intergenerational trauma, you'll want to watch this. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/573

Do you undervalue your accomplishments? Do you brush off compliments about your work? Do you use self-effacing humor to put yourself down before anyone else can? If you answered “yes,” let me ask you this: How do you feel about your own worthiness? From your emails and comments, I know many of you struggle with self-worth. If this is you, you are not alone, and I invite you to read on as this episode is all about worthiness. I cover why many of us feel unworthy, my own experience with worthiness, and how you can begin to feel more worthy in your life, because you deserve it. Read the show notes for today's

I am so excited to have my pal (and one-half of the Astrotwins), Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about horoscopes for 2024. Ophira explains the big themes for next year and also breaks down what each sign can expect to see in the first and second half of the year. (Mine is pretty accurate

How do you feel about change? Do you resist it? Are you afraid of it? Or are you someone who sees new possibilities in change? If your relationship with change is not where you want it to be, this episode is for you. I cover the highs and lows of change, our natural and often ingrained fear of change, and how we can relate to change in a healthy way because it will happen whether we resist or not. Read the show notes for today's episode at http://terricole.com/570

I am thrilled to have my pal, actress and author Josie Bissett, on the show today! Josie and I recently reconnected and in this girlfriend jam, we reminisce about our days in and around Hollywood and Josie's time on Melrose Place. We also chat about what Josie has been up to- her children's books, getting back into acting, and working on better boundaries.  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! P.S. Josie is offering personalized, signed copies of her award-winning children’s book, the 'Tickle Monster Laughter Kit.' This could be a perfect gift for your little ones or a cherished addition to your family’s bookshelf. To make one of these special copies yours, simply send an email to ticklemonsterbook@gmail.com. They’ll email back with more details and instructions. You can also go to www.josiebissett.com to buy an unsigned copy of Tickle Monster Laughter Kit. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/569

Do you feel like nothing ever works out for you? Like you never get what you want? Like good things only happen to other people, but not you? Do you often blame other people for your unhappiness? If any of this resonates, listen in, because this episode is all about a powerful perspective shift you can use to move from an unempowered state of mind to a much more empowered place. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/568

I am thrilled to be joined today by none other than the Supernanny herself, parenting expert Jo Frost.  We covered so much in this episode, from Jo's thoughts on kids having phones and being on social media, to the importance of raising awareness of anaphylaxis, and the biggest struggles families are facing right now.  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/567

Are there particular people at family, work, or friend gatherings you would rather avoid? Is it painful to interact with them because they ask intrusive questions or love to complain? Or do you simply find social gatherings tricky to navigate? Whether you are attending family gatherings, friend celebrations, or holiday work parties, in this episode I am giving you a few ways to get out of seemingly impossible social situations.  If you feel stuck between not wanting to answer a deeply personal question and not wanting to seem ‘rude,’ I have scripts for you. And if you are tired of people who tell inappropriate jokes or make rude comments, I have you covered there, too.  Ultimately, this is about your right to be selective about whom you share information with and focus on how you want to feel in these situations. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/566

**Trigger Warning** This episode contains a story about gun violence and narcissistic abuse. If this is distressing for you, please skip it! Katre has a phenomenal story of escaping a toxic, narcissistic abusive relationship that highlights the resiliency of the human spirit. She shares how she escaped, what brought her to the moment of needing to get out, and how she healed afterward.  Those of you who have experienced narcissistic abuse may see yourself in Katre's journey. She shares it to help others feel less alone because when you go through something like this, as Katre shared, people in your life may not understand the extent of the abuse. Many of her friends waved off her ex's behavior as emotionally immature.  But Katre was able to leave this relationship in 2018 and has worked on healing in the years since, even becoming a mentor and coach to others. If you can relate to her story, consider joining her Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1917430661795072/ Read the show notes for toda

What are the stories you tell yourself about the things you want in life? Do you have limiting beliefs, ideas, or thoughts about your capabilities and worthiness? Does it feel safer to long for something than to have it? Many of you have written to me wanting to understand, on a deeper level, what stops you from taking action toward the things you say you want. If any of this rings true for you, read on because I am talking about why many of us find wanting more comfortable than having, and how we can get unstuck and take actions aligned with our desires. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/564