The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to share this conversation about building epic love with my pal, psychiatrist and relationship expert Dr. Ish Major.  We met at the Real Love Ready Relationship Summit in Vancouver only to realize we were both heading to LA after to the set of Nick Cannon's Counsel Culture.  We talk about how Dr. Ish's interest in psychology came to be and how his childhood experiences impacted him, and then the conversation turns to codependency in relationships.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/ Dr. ish says he was a "card carrying captain of team codependence" for the first 40 years of his life, which I think a lot of us can relate to! He shares the lessons he learned and he offers so much wisdom in really simple, accessible terms. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/659

Are there people in your life who are conflict connoisseurs? People who really love stirring the pot, who are addicted to drama? In response to you being upset, these types of people might rile you up or suggest you should be angrier rather than talking you off a ledge. I know many of you are not into stirring the pot but find yourselves with high conflict lovers in your life, which can be stressful. That’s why I’m talking about high conflict versus healthy conflict, how to identify high-conflict people and protect yourself from them, and steps for more constructive ways to manage conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/658

I am thrilled to have Dr. Mindy Pelz back on the show in celebration of her new book, _Eat Like A Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn Fat._ Who doesn't want that?! Dr. Mindy and I talk about everything from why we struggle to lose weight with age, our philosophies on aging, how to eat for the stage of life you're in, and how to produce GLP-1 hormones naturally within your own body.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes about today's episode at terricole.com/657

Are there couples who make you think, what do they know about love that I don’t? How do they do it? Or do you see couples on TV and wonder, how can I get that kind of love? Where can I even find it? If so, this episode is for you because I am sharing reflections from 25 years of marriage (I can’t believe it!) to my one and only, Vic, about how we’ve kept it good, and how to apply these lessons to your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/656

I am so excited to welcome my pal Tamsen Fadal back to the show to talk about her new documentary, The M Factor: Shredding the Silence On Menopause. It's available to stream right now on PBS!  Tamsen is an award-winning news anchor and menopause advocate, and she combined her skills and passion to create this amazing documentary.  During our conversation, Tamsen and I talk about our experiences with perimenopause and menopause, the lesser-known symptoms many women have, how the documentary came about, the hope Tamsen has for how it will impact the healthcare we receive as women, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/655

How do you react to seeing a friend, sibling, or partner having a rough time?  Not how do you respond, but how do you react? Do you immediately jump to share ideas or thoughts to try to fix their problem?  Or do you inadvertently invalidate their feelings by saying, “Hey, it’s not so bad. It’ll be better tomorrow”?  If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking about the transformative power of learning to sit with emotional discomfort, why you may feel compelled to avoid it by taking action, and what you can do instead. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/654

I am so excited to welcome Emily Sadri to the show to talk all things perimenopause! She's a Board Certified Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner, Certified Nurse Midwife, and hormone expert who's helped thousands of women through this journey.  Emily is amazing at breaking down complex topics and making them accessible, and we got into the weeds on weight loss, insomnia, and how and why the loss of estrogen affects us so deeply. If you want more info, join the summit for free! I'll be speaking there:  https://perimenopauserevolution.com/?orid=16 North American Menopause Society: https://www.menopause.org/ (referenced during the interview) Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/653

Do you tend to lose yourself in relationships? Are you a people pleaser who prioritizes others above yourself? Do you look outside yourself for validation? If you answered yes and you’re tired of these relational dynamics, you’re in the right place because I’m talking all about self-abandonment: what it is, why we do it, the signs, and how you can move into self-consideration instead. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/652

I am so thrilled to have my pal, embodiment expert and author Elizabeth DiAlto, back on the show!  We talked about Elizabeth's new fiction book, Dark Healing, and why she wrote it, as well as the differences between being triggered and activated, how embodiment can help us get out of our minds and into our body, the spiritual aspect of embodiment, and so much more.  I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/651

How do you feel about asking others for help? Are you good at it, or do you avoid it because you don’t want to ‘owe’ anybody anything? Do you find it difficult to believe other people will show up for you the way you show up for them? Or does being vulnerable scare you? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking all about hyper-independence: what it is, why it matters, what causes us to act this way, signs to help you identify whether this is you, and how to shift into healthy independence and interdependence. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/650

I am so excited to welcome my science girl crush, Leah Elson, to the show to talk about a variety of things: her book, There Are No Stupid Questions in Science, why she's so passionate about being a public science communicator, her pivot from sportscasting into this field, and how she is working to give herself more grace and place less pressure on herself.  If you're a fellow high-functioning codependent, I really think this is one you'll relate to! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/649

Do you believe that setting boundaries means being confrontational? Do you wish you knew how to cut someone off nicely, especially if it involves a professional relationship? Are you tired of confiding in others only for them to make your own pain into something about them? Or have you wondered if it’s ever okay to “jump in and fix things” for someone who is struggling? These are just some questions I’m answering about boundaries and high-functioning codependency in this episode. Let’s dive in. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/648

I am so excited to have my pal, best-selling author and speaking expert, Ashley Stahl back on the show to talk all things public speaking! Whether you want to give keynote speeches, give a presentation at work, or pitch a crucial project, Ashley's tips will help you shine. We talked about the aspects of viral speeches, from the title to the opening and structure, as well as stage presence and the power of pausing. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/647

Does it feel like if you don’t fix problems or move things forward, no one will? Do you feel overly responsible, like everything will fall apart if you don’t do all the things? Do you just find yourself saying, “It's just faster/easier/more efficient if I do it myself”? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I am talking about the five traits of high-functioning codependency (HFC), the cycle of codependency I often see my clients go through, and how to shift from over-doing and over-giving into more balance and less exhaustion. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/646

I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned grief expert, David Kessler, to the show to talk about his new workbook, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief Workbook: Tools for Releasing Pain and Remembering with Love. Unresolved grief is so common, and I love the way David makes this topic so accessible. During this conversation, we talk about ALL kinds of grief, because it's not just about losing someone you love. It's also about endings and abrupt changes.  David is such a kind soul and no matter what loss you've experienced, I think you'll find comfort and hope in his message. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/645

Do you automatically accommodate others because it’s the “nice” thing to do? Do you consistently overthink how your actions will impact others? Are you always on the lookout for how you can help people or solve problems? If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between codependent, caring, or controlling behavior, this episode is for you.  I’m breaking down the distinction by discussing a little-known aspect of codependency, sharing real-life examples to clarify, and providing tips on how to shift from codependency to healthy giving. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/644

I am so thrilled to welcome Hospice Nurse Julie to the show to talk to us all about end-of-life care: what to expect, what actively dying looks like, why it's so important to normalize discussing death, and what inspired Julie to start posting on TikTok and write her book, Nothing to Fear: Demystifying Death to Live More Fully. If you're afraid of dying, or even thinking about death, this conversation might just be the one you need to hear. Julie's content went viral on TikTok just after 4 days which speaks to the need for education around death and dying. And getting educated often reduces our fear around it, so I hope you enjoy this conversation with Julie as much as I did. CW: a large portion of this conversation focuses on death and dying, and Julie talks about what actively dying looks like at the 22 minute mark. If you're sensitive to this, please consider skipping that section or this conversation. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/643

Do you find it hard to open up to people, especially when you’re struggling? Is it hard for you to ask for or allow help? Have you ever had a crisis where you kept what was happening to yourself because you didn’t want to worry anyone?  If you’re nodding yes, today’s video is for you because I’m sharing the high-functioning codependent (HFC) behaviors I noticed in myself as I navigated a recent health scare.  I’m also talking about the hidden cost of not asking for help.  By sharing my story, I hope to inspire you to care for your health and let other people show up for you. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/642

I am so excited to have my pal and one half of The Astrotwins, Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about her and Tali's new book, The Astrology Advantage: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success.  It’s a new way of looking at your birth chart to figure out which archetype you are: Innovator, Authority, or Maven. Ophira dives into what each type does best (we're both Innovators!) and how she and Tali created it.  We also talk about how Ophira got into astrology, how she got me into it, and how it can be a useful tool in your life. I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/641

Have you ever wondered whether you’re too close with your family of origin? Does it feel like your life kinda revolves around them? Or are you guilted and shamed by them for wanting to pursue your own thing? Then this episode is for you because it’s all about family enmeshment: what it is, five signs to identify whether you grew up in this type of family system, the impact it has on us as adults, and how to begin thinking about setting healthy boundaries with your family. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/640