Boldadulting - Courage In The Face Of Self Doubt

[content warning: sexual assault] Elyse Wojnowski-Anders shares about the surprising effect running has on her confidence, how sex work can counter traditional societal body messages, and why she shares openly about her experiences with sexual assault and addiction.   Find Elyse on Facebook or InstagramEmail Elyse: elyse.anders@gmail.com  Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks: Tell us about your thoughts or experiences with societal body messages, especially if you've said "no thank you" to them!  Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: masha@boldadulting.com  

The cast of the Grossmont College Treasure Island show shares about their desire for specific critical feedback, why they aren’t single-mindedly focused on getting to Broadway, and the many confidence-boosting benefits of being in theater. Interviewees (and their character names): Del Nieto (Billy Bones) - Instagram and Facebook Delia Mejia (Captain Morgan) - Facebook Mika Fogacci (Squints) - Instagram Odany J. Frias (Ace) - InstagramAmy Oliverio (Buckets) - Facebook Kiley Giard (Mrs. Hawkins/Gold Tooth) Bill Wilcox (play attendee) - Facebook Lena Kaplun (play attendee) - Website Jason Jones (play attendee) - Facebook  Plus 1 anonymous but appreciated cast member

Science Communicator Dave Farina of the Professor Dave Explains YouTube channel and the Professor Dave Debates podcast opens up about how his projects are a refuge from stress, his journey in and out of multiple graduate programs, and why it’s important to calibrate your expectations based on your goals. Find Professor Dave Explains and Professor Dave Debates and on Twitter. Email Dave at professordaveexplains@gmail.com if you have questions about chemistry or the other topics his channel teaches! Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Med Student Cuong Lieu discusses presenting yourself differently with friends vs. colleagues (code switching), how applying to med school affected his confidence, and the importance of having doctors who speak the same language as their patients. Find Cuong on Facebook.  Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: masha@boldadulting.com - if your message is for Cuong, let Masha know so she can forward it to him

In this solo episode, Masha the Quirky Qonfidence Qoach provides 7 simple steps to reach out to people for career/life advice, to make connections, to thank people for something they’ve made or done, or to follow up after meeting someone. The steps include: Choose the careers you want to learn about. Choose/find people. Write the email. Say hello. Provide context. Add specificity. Say who you are. Say what you’re looking for. Suggest one or two simple ways to connect. End the email. Write a subject line Follow up politely (if needed) Meet them Say thanks after Stay in touch  For a PDF with more details and lots of tips, download the full guide to 7 Steps to Confidently Reach Out to Anyone. Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: masha@boldadulting.com

If any thoughts popped up while you listened, email me - masha@boldadulting.com. Right this second, just do it! Write 1 sentence, 5 sentences, or pages and pages, no need to worry about the structure. masha@boldadulting.com. Just tell me what you thought about. Even if it's been a long time since the episode and you aren't sure what to say, just say hi/send me a gif about something you're experiencing. masha@boldadulting.com Science communicator and neuroscientist Elena Blanco-Suarez shares about the uncertainties of doing science in English as a second language learner, how music and movement helps her mental health, an the surprising benefits of opening up to others about low confidence. In a bonus segment, Elena answers advice questions for grad students and post docs. Mentioned in this episode: Discovering Statistics Using Sex, Drugs, and Rock ‘n’ Roll - great book for making statistics understandable and fun Listen to this episode on YouTube! Follow Elena on Twitter and Instagram. Learn about science

BoldAdulting season 2 is here! In the first episode, Quirky Qonfidence Qoach Masha shares why she embraces her many failures, shares the struggles shared with her by many scientists, and gives 12 tips for becoming a more confident and happy individual. Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Recorded at the annual banquet of the Society of Women Engineers San Diego chapter. Thanks to Denise Tung and Debra Kimberling for helping bring me to this audience! Watch videos of the BoldAdulting confidence tips (1 tip/video playlist or 7 min video of all tips) Listen to this episode on YouTube! Mentioned in this episode: Brad Voytek - his CV (~resume) includes failures and rejections! BoldAdulting Confidence Cat The Genetics Gal - older posts include lots of science communication Quirky Bingers - a body positive binge eating support group Better Late Than Never - a website to help us get over the feeling that we're awful because it takes time to respond to emails Wellpreneur - attribution visible in video at 0:12 H

Mo Anderson shares how graduating college made a huge step in her confidence, how she finds role models, and what responsibilities she feels mentors have in shaping the confidence of young minds. Email Mo including to encourage her to get her singing on YouTube! Comment on this episode at boldadulting.com/blog/2017/3/20/podcast-singer-research-associate-wife-mo-anderson-ba-13 Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Interested in a free confidence-coaching consultation? Get in touch with Masha!

In this audio blog, I rant about the structure of feedback in academia. I discuss how this affects confidence, a moment that defined my views about feedback, my proposed way to better let people know what they're doing well and how to improve, and why I think getting no positive feedback is a nonsensical and counterproductive approach among talented groups of people. Comment on this episode or share your thoughts at    Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Interested in a free confidence-coaching consultation? Get in touch with Masha! Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Speaker and consultant Jess Pettitt shares how her body image changes based on who she’s with, the contrast between the high of being on stage and the loneliness of returning to hotel rooms, and how publishing her book Good Enough Now challenged her own feelings of feeling good enough now. Comment on this episode or share your thoughts at boldadulting.com/blog/2017/2/20/podcast-good-enough-now-author-jess-pettitt-ba-11 Find Jess on her website, @jesspettitt, Facebook, or LinkedIn. Pre-order Good Enough Now so you can read Jess' whole book! Text Jess any questions at 202-670-4262 Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Interested in a free confidence-coaching consultation? Get in touch with Masha! Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Speaker and consultant Jess Pettitt shares 6 tips for feeling good enough now! (Yes, now. Not at some future time when you're finally perfect.) Comment on this episode or share your thoughts about how to feel good enough now at boldadulting.com/blog/2017/2/13/podcast-6-tips-for-feeling-good-enough-now-with-jess-pettitt Find Jess on her website, @jesspettitt, Facebook, or LinkedIn. Pre-order Good Enough Now so you can read Jess' whole book! Text Jess any questions at 202-670-4262 Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Interested in a free confidence-coaching consultation? Get in touch with Masha! Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Science communicator (and recent PhD recipient!) Kellie Vinal opens up about how mentors saved her confidence during a grad school low, how collaborators help keep her going strong, and how being self-conscious while telling stories can backfire. Comment on this episode or share your thoughts about confidence in science at boldadulting.com/blog/2017/1/30/podcast-science-communicator-kellie-vinal Find Kellie on Twitter: @KellieVinal or Instagram: @kelliewa Email Kellie at Kellie.Vinal@gmail.com Listen to the Blue Streak Science podcast Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Interested in a free confidence-coaching consultation? Get in touch with Masha! Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

UCSF med student Ashleigh Nelson shares how she's rebuilding her confidence after a stressful med school application process, how community helps her feel strong, and the shocking hazing practice our future doctors go through.  Email Ashleigh for advice at ashleigh.lauran@gmail.com Comment on this episode or share your thoughts about confidence in med school at www.boldadulting.com/blog/2017/1/23/podcast-med-student-ashleigh-nelson-ba-8 Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdulting BoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Evan Bernstein, co-host of the Skeptics' Guide to the Universe podcast, shares how he got over being nervous being on stage in front of huge audiences at skeptical conferences like The Amazing Meeting, how he instills confidence in his kids, and why he doesn't let online trolls get him down.  Find Evan: @SkepticsGuide The Skeptics' Guide to the Universe Podcast Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Journalist and podcaster Sanden Totten talks about his experience with confidence in the media, how his body image has affected the creative projects he pursues, and how the 2016 Donald Trump election has thrown a new dilemma his way. Find Sanden: @SandenTotten SandenTotten.com Find Sanden's podcast Brains On: @Brains_On BrainsOn.org Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Science writer Dr. Ian Street shares about how his past experiences with depression have made him stronger today, the surprising upside of being self-conscious while talking, and his dreams for his career transition into a full-time science communicator. Find Ian: @IHStreetTheQuietBranches.comRecovering Academic Podcast Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Sisters of Flow podcaster De'Nicea Hilton and I discuss confidence when talking about issues most people shy away from! Find De'Nicea: @SistersofFlowSistersOfFlow.com Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

I discuss 9 reasons why grad students have such low confidence.  Here they are:  1) They're among the people who (like them) were the best in undergrad. 2) They only hear people answer/ask questions in class when those people know the answer and don't hear all the times their classmates had no clue. 3) They're trained by people who are more experienced. 4) They think they're supposed to remember most of what they learned in undergrad. 5) Experiments fail all the time and people take it to heart. 6) The way academics (and others) give criticism is soul-sucking. 7) Grad students are often isolated. 8) They compare themselves to others. 9) Interviews to get into grad school are so fricking stressful! Advice: Talk to people about how you're feeling. Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

I interview Dr. Lenny Teytelman of the protocols repository Protocols.io. We discuss grad school stress, including that pesky bugger imposter syndrome (the feeling many grad students get that they aren't good enough), and how to deal with it. Lenny also shares why grad school is great preparation for many non-faculty positions, including in start-ups. Find Lenny: @lteytelmanProtocols.io Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides

Cara Santa Maria of the Skeptics Guide to the Universe and Talk Nerdy podcasts discusses her experience with confidence in grad school and in the media. Find Cara: @CaraSantaMaria CaraSantaMaria.com Find BoldAdulting: @BoldAdultingBoldAdulting.com Sponsored by the BoldAdulting online class: How to deal with the 3 most stressful parts of grad school: AKA All grad students think they suckFree preview at bit.ly/how-to-deal-with-grad-school-stress-slides