Boldadulting - Courage In The Face Of Self Doubt

This is season 3's last episode. Request from Masha -- if any of these episodes or the resources shared within have helped you or meant something to you, please reach out to masha@boldadulting.com to let me know. I'm not sure when the next season will be, but I promise it is coming. Suggestions for guests (including yourself!), topics, other podcasts you'd like to hear me on, or just a hello are very much appreciated. Reach out anytime :) Episode description: Anonymous client receives support on maintaining confidence during job searches and dealing with unease in social settings. Tips include learning how to say no to social invitations even if you don’t have other plans and how to use “I don’t know” to your advantage in job interviews. NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) -- reaching out to people (virtually) figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with looking for evidence-based resources remembering that you are not alone If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).   I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) -- reaching out to people (virtually) figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with looking for evidence-based resources remembering that you are not alone If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).   I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) -- reaching out to people (virtually) figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with looking for evidence-based resources remembering that you are not alone If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast). I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (w

[content warning: eating disorders & body shame] In episode 1 of a two-part episode, Voice Actor and Coach, Podcaster, and Marketing Specialist Tawny Platis shares about what makes her confidence waver, how teaching helps remind her how far she’s come, and and how she keeps picking up the phone even knowing rejections are common in voice acting. We also discuss how being a generalist makes her a stronger communicator.    Email Tawny    Find Tawny on her:  personal  website,  Facebook Instagram Death is Hilarious (previously known as The Dirty Bits) podcast Patreon page - support the podcast & get extra content! website Instagram of the former Dirty Bits podcast Tawny Voice Facebook page  Instagram Twitter And Facebook group The Lovebug Brigade Mentioned in this episode: Tip: To improve your confidence, teach others what you know Dialectical behavioral therapy (finding healthier coping mechanisms) Masha’s list of ways to feel better includes blowing bubbles, taking a walk, swimming,

Shijia gets help on her confidence as it relates to doing science/grad school in a non-native language, asking for feedback, and comfort interacting with men as a result of cultural upbringing.     Homework: Ask for feedback  Tip: Ask for 1 thing you did well and 1 thing you did better (to avoid receiving the “It was good but…” structure of feedback) Tip: If it’s written feedback, read it while you’re well-rested and relaxed (if possible) Tip: Prepare for but don’t avoid awkwardness Growth mindset: don’t feel limited by the skills you currently have My late grandpa Yuriy had this, as he spoke to Americans even when he wasn’t fluent after we moved to the US from Russia. I recently found an amazing home video of him telling a joke in English, making people erupt in laughter, and then being delighted that he was understood   Homework: List the benefits of the struggles and learning opportunities you’ve had. Examples:  Having English as a 2nd language can provide skills for then learning the language o

[content warning: suicidal ideation] Transformational Life Coach Shannon Parsons shares her recovery from childhood pain and loneliness, how observing another family gave her valuable perspective, and how she raised her children according to her values.   Email Shannon   Mentioned in this episode: Improv for Entrepreneurs class, through O.Improv  Wonder Women Networking events by Liz Myers Humboldt State University  On the Spot Improv at the Arcata Theater Lounge Humboldt Orientation Program - teaches people to say “I don’t know, but I’ll get back to you” Confidence Cat Zine: coloring worksheets for confidence, problem-solving, and career decision-making  Idea: Draw your Inner Belief Child Tip - to minimize criticizing your ideas, think of them as Throwaway Ideas and let as many out as you can  Try the Hatch notebook for tracking ideas and moving forward with some of them Feeling perfectionist even when you’re brainstorming? Try the word “Brainsprinkles,” to further take the pressure off.  Do It Scared

Sam gets help with stressing over the possibility of being judged on a first date and about the risks of running a business.    Mentioned in this episode: Homework: Then What/Worst Case Scenario, adapted from Then What exercise Homework: Don’t Worry, Prepare Tip: When sharing something difficult, give the person a year to deal with the info and come around (as suggested by Dan Savage) Homework: Mindfulness about thoughts ———————————————————————— Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram. Email: masha@boldadulting.com Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram   All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest.    Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, re

Ray receives help with 1) navigating body image and consent issues in dating and 2) finding the confidence to make social change.   Mentioned in the episode: 100 Rejection Letters challenge Pat 2.0 Podcast - provides advice on taking effective action Homework: Keep folder of nice things people have said about you    In this coaching session, we talk about how Diet Culture shapes our relationships with food and our body image. In case you or someone you know needs it, here is some possibly helpful information:  Eating Disorder Hotline Listings International Eating Disorder Resources Body Dysmorphic Disorder Body Liberation ———————————————————————— Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram. Email: masha@boldadulting.com Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram   All coaching sessions and interviews are included

In session three of Nora’s confidence coaching session series, she gets help with letting go of unworthiness and perfectionism.   Mentioned in this episode: Landmark Forum Homework: Gratitude journaling, including gratitude about your own skills, traits, and experiences Homework: Note down your strengths and accomplishments, including those that came out of your struggles Makeup by Nora Lu ———————————————————————— Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram. Email: masha@boldadulting.com Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram   All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest.    Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact informa

In session two of Nora’s confidence coaching session series, she gets help with fear of looking bad when trying new things.   Mentioned in this episode: Homework: Move pennies between pockets to count unhelpful thoughts The idea of “Do It Scared” (not waiting to be totally ready before taking action) Landmark Forum Homework: Avoiding Pink Elephants (think of a better thought to replace an unhelpful thought pattern, as just trying to avoid thoughts tends to reinforce them Homework: Note down your strengths and accomplishments Makeup by Nora Lu ———————————————————————— Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram. Email: masha@boldadulting.com Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram   All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest.    Bold Adulting seas

In session one of Nora’s confidence coaching session series, she gets help with fixating on body image and focusing on learning instead of perfectionism.    Stay tuned for parts 2 and 3!   See Nora’s Instagram: Makeup by Nora Lu   Mentioned in this episode: Food Psych Podcast - about intuitive eating and Health At Every Size Tip: destroy or throw out scale  Homework: Every day, note 1-3 thing you are grateful for yourself Tip: Don’t just focus on aesthetics; think about everything your body is doing for you! Orthorexia: fixation with “healthy” eating  Note: “healthy” is in quotation marks both because orthorexia shows how this focus can actually be unhealthy AND because the typical distinction between “healthy food” and “unhealthy food” is not evidence-based (see Food Psych episodes 168 and 183).  Homework: Track unhelpful (e.g. self-critical) thoughts by moving pennies from one pocket to another or by using a tally  Homework: To cultivate your growth mindset, make 2 lists:  List #1: Subjects o

In this confidence coaching session, Lucy gets help 1) navigating awkward conversational moments and 2) identifying goals and taking action. Please forgive us for some background noise. :)   Remember:  "Trying is cool" - Lucy   Mentioned in this episode: Greater Good Storytelling: coaching and workshops by storytelling consultant Nathan Young Tip by Lucy: Imagine you’re a cricket watching a reel of your past moments, to reflect on what went well and what you can do differently next time Note: Be careful not to over-ruminate. Part of the reason Lucy finds this helpful is because it helps her not overly fixate on awkward moments.   Homework: Practice mindfulness, letting your thoughts swim or float away  Homework: Nervous about how you’re coming across to friends or coworkers? Ask for feedback Tip: To prevent the “it was good but…” format of feedback, ask for one thing you’re doing well and one way you could do better  BetterLateThanNever.email - a website to normalize the common experience of being b

Business Coach Geraldine Carter shares how she helps women entrepreneurs find their confidence while growing their businesses, how she navigates career transitions when the path ahead is uncertain, and how she notices norms without conforming to all of them.    Mentioned on the episode: She Thinks Big (formerly Focused Business Coaching), including Geraldine’s podcast and Facebook Climate Ride Free - 7 Step Guide For Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone Biz Chix podcast One Bad Mother podcast Why complimenting weight loss is a bad idea ———————————————————————— Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram. Email: masha@boldadulting.com Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram   All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest.    Bold Adulting season 3 epi

In part 2 of a two-part interview, Podcaster and writer Jordan Morris shares his experience with self-soothing when unemployed, how self-esteem affects his social anxiety, why it can be hard to feel ok about downtime in a culture that expects constant productivity, and why sharing a creative project can be more daunting than creating it.    Jordan’s Twitter Jordan’s website Part 1: Previous episode of Bold Adulting with Jordan, about confidence and adulting moments in his sci-fi podcast Bubble   ———————————————————————— Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram. Email: masha@boldadulting.com Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram   All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest.    Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To he

The Bold Adulting podcast is coming soon!    We’ve been away focusing on a bunch of things, including creating resources to help YOU with your confidence, authenticity, and confidence.    The next Bold Adulting podcast season fill feature 8 confidence coaching sessions, 5 interviews, and the audio from a Success in Grad School & Beyond workshop.    Reach out to Masha: masha@boldadulting.com If you like the show, please leave a 5-star review in the iTunes store/Podcast app, even if that’s not how you listen to the show. :)   Mentioned in this episode: Bold Adulting seasons 1 and 2 Lift Live business conference by Mirasee Thanks to Gena Ferrabee and Dori Zabari for super helpful coaching & strategy sessions!  Confidence Cat Zine: coloring worksheets for confidence, problem-solving, and career decision-making Free resources including 7 Step Guide For Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone Interviews to come: Podcaster and Writer Jordan Morris Business Coach Geraldine Carter Transformational Life Coac

In this bonus episode between seasons 2 and 3 of the BoldAdulting podcast, writer & podcaster Jordan Morris discusses with Masha how the characters on his sci-fi comedy Bubble articulate their needs and boundaries, navigate choosing between privacy and authenticity, try things that may not work out, and deal with difficult feedback. Also hear Jordan share about his confidence in sharing creative projects.   This is part 1 of a 2-part episode with Jordan Morris. Hear part 2 when BoldAdulting season 3 is back! Season 3 will include on-air confidence coaching calls. Interested in confidence-coaching?   Listen to Bubble, Jordan’s sci-fi audio comedy. Connect to Jordan on Twitter.   Share your thoughts with fellow Quirks! 1) How do you communicate your needs and boundaries? 2) Share a creative project you’ve made (or are making) and tell us what it has been like to share it!   Download a free guide to confidently reach out to anyone! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: masha@boldadulting.com

In the last episode of season 2, Mental Health Podcaster Andrew of Andrew in the Gap Years shares his big dream goal of training all undergrads in active listening, how he prepares for social settings to prevent a vicious cycle of social anxiety, how as a child he learned to fear making mistakes, and his secret for actually having fun at job interviews. Email Andrew: Andrewinthegapyears@gmail.com Find Andrew in the Gap Years and connect to him on Twitter. Mental health or business podcasts recommended by Andrew and/or Masha: Biz Chix, Shrink Wrap Radio, Social Work Podcast, Counselling Tutor, Psych Central Show, Therapists Uncensored, We All Wear It Differently, Mental Illness Happy Hour, The Hilarious World of Depression Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! 1. How does social anxiety feel for you and how do you deal with it? 2. Tell us about a time you made a mistake and how it affected your life or career. March 6th was Masha’s birthday. Enjoy the show and want to give her a great gift? Please

In part 2, Graduate Career Counselor Giulia Hoffmann shares about her experience questioning gendered messages about confidence, choosing which battles to fight, her reasons for wanting to earn her PhD since she was 6 years old, and how she felt when she finally earned that PhD. Listen to part 1. Find Giulia on LinkedIn Email Giulia: gkhoffmann@ucsd.edu Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: masha@boldadulting.com

In part 1, Graduate Career Counselor Giulia Hoffmann opens up about feeling like the only grad student who wasn’t trying to become a professor, the changes she made to her job applications to finally find a great job, and a trick for using procrastination to find your dream job.  Find Giulia on LinkedIn Email Giulia: gkhoffmann@ucsd.edu Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: masha@boldadulting.com